Work with this acronym: TLC. It doesn't stand for 'tender loving care' rather, the letters stand for Take it; Leave it; or Change it and are recommended by author Marsha Petrie Sue in her book Toxic People, as the place to begin when dealing with a challenging individual.
She explains that take it means accepting "events as they are in the moment" and reminding yourself "that it is okay for right now - maybe not perfect but liveable."
Leave it is the choice to reject the situation, step out of your comfort zone and say to yourself "I'm not going to accept it the way it is, and I know i can't change it, so I'm leaving." Petrie Sue says an example would be losing a client, only to have a better one appear.
Change it may initially feel difficult or overwhelming but is a viable approach. "Remember, if you can't accept it and don't want to leave it, then working for a change is the only remaining option. "
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She explains that take it means accepting "events as they are in the moment" and reminding yourself "that it is okay for right now - maybe not perfect but liveable."
Leave it is the choice to reject the situation, step out of your comfort zone and say to yourself "I'm not going to accept it the way it is, and I know i can't change it, so I'm leaving." Petrie Sue says an example would be losing a client, only to have a better one appear.
Change it may initially feel difficult or overwhelming but is a viable approach. "Remember, if you can't accept it and don't want to leave it, then working for a change is the only remaining option. "
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