That’s the advice of Rabbi Joseph Teluskin who cites this insight from the eleventh century Rabbi Nathan: “If your friend did you a small favor, let it be in your eyes a big favor.” The issues for many of us is that we take for granted or even forget the good and kind things others have done for us.
Rabbi Telushkin notes: “Unfortunately, we are likely to recall – in great detail – any slight other people have inflicted on us. If you are the sort of person who does this, make an effort to reverse this tendency. Don’t take the kindness of others for granted and be appreciative of each and every favor.”