America's leading relationship researcher and authority is Dr. John Gottman, the author of several books about relationships. In his book, The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement For Couples, he notes that couples who have relationship problems and then seek therapy are more likely to divorce than those who don't get counseling. Here's what Dr. Gottman writes:
We asked the people who participated in our research if they were getting therapy, and we discovered that there was a reasonably high correlation between getting therapy and getting a divorce. It was more likely that couples would get a divorce if they had therapy than if they had no therapy. This was especially true for individual therapy, but it was also true of couple therapy.
As one who has counseled and observed couples who have entered therapy, I was not surprised to read this. In my limited experience I've anecdotally noted that couples who do therapy often conclude in divorce. There are likely many reasons for this but, from a Vedic viewpoint, too much Western psychology focuses on issues of the past continually highlighting them and giving them power rather than providing a path for healing and moving forward.
We asked the people who participated in our research if they were getting therapy, and we discovered that there was a reasonably high correlation between getting therapy and getting a divorce. It was more likely that couples would get a divorce if they had therapy than if they had no therapy. This was especially true for individual therapy, but it was also true of couple therapy.
As one who has counseled and observed couples who have entered therapy, I was not surprised to read this. In my limited experience I've anecdotally noted that couples who do therapy often conclude in divorce. There are likely many reasons for this but, from a Vedic viewpoint, too much Western psychology focuses on issues of the past continually highlighting them and giving them power rather than providing a path for healing and moving forward.
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