#1). Look ahead. Though no one can change the past, everyone work toward creating a more meaningful and happier future. This will mean looking ahead rather than constantly looking back at what was and what could have been. Ask yourself, "what can I do today to ensure that my future will be brighter?"
#2). Be flexible. Adapt and adjust to emerging circumstances. Avoid remaining rigid, frozen in place, stunned by a situation. Being soft and pliable is a healthier (and quicker) way to get through a tough time.
#3). Take action. Make a list of things you could do to improve your situation . . . and then do it. Taking constructive action will prevent you from being paralyzed by negativity and overwhelmed with discouragement. "Vision is not enough, it must be combined with venture. It is not enough to stare up the steps, we must step up the stairs," says Czech leader Vaclav Havel.
#4). Be positive. Being positive means making the choice to see the bright side of a situation. The Dalai Lama says it well: "Choose to be optimistic. It feels better."
#5). Nurture yourself. Make time to do things you enjoy. Make time to be with people you enjoy. Make time keep yourself healthy in every way: emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically.
#6). Reject victimhood. Victims believe not only that life is unfair but that it deliberately sets out to hurt them. This results in finger pointing, blame and self-pity. Be better than this by viewing yourself as an over comer and survivor.
#7). Keep expanding. Allow difficulty to make you stronger, wiser, braver, and more courageous. "You learn to rise above a lot of bad things that happen in your life. And you have to keep going" was wisdom offered by actress Lauren Bacall.
#8). Stay tough. Override any anxiety or uncertainty about how you're going to deal with a situation. Stay tough; remain strong; don't give up or give in. Babe Ruth famously noted:
"You just can't beat the person who won't give up."