Margaret Meloni, PhD., author of Carpooling with Death: How living with Death will make you Stronger, Wiser and Fearless, shares this important insight about learning to trust your intuition about people.
"A friend with whom I had fallen out of touch learned that I was navigating the death of my mother and my husband. The good news for me is that she had forgotten my address. I say that because she began bombarding me with messages about how she needed to come be with me; how I needed someone to come take care of me, and I could not be by myself. In the past, I had watched her method of taking care of others, and while she meant well and had a heart of gold, she was loud and she was overbearing. Her way to take care of someone was to take over every aspect of their life. As an introvert, all I wanted was quiet. I could not imagine having someone in the house with me, telling me what was best for me."
(source: https://www.buddhistdoor.net/features/who-most-deserves-your-compassion/ )